Friday, June 15, 2012

In Loving Memory and Reflections

On Tuesday, June 5, 2012  with almost all his children at his side, Gary was taken home to be with the Lord after a two year struggle with multiform glioblastoma brain cancer.

In Loving Memory Of: 

Gary Vandenbrink 

December 24, 1956 - June 5, 2012

Lovingly remembered by:

His wife: Joanne Vandenbrink

His children: 
Michael Vandenbrink
Christine Vandenbrink and David Calderwood (fiancé)
David and Leanne Vandenbrink
Ryan Vandenbrink
Jessica Vandenbrink

His mother: Evelyn Vandenbrink

His brothers and sisters: 
Henny & Rick Fintelman
Steven & Karen Vandenbrink
Mary & Jim Schuit
John & Carol Ann Vandenbrink
Evelyn & Bill Menkveld

His parents in-law: Henk & Gerda Pennings

His in-laws, the Pennings family, and many nieces and nephews

Predeceased by: 
His father, Steven Vandenbrink (2010)


Memorial Service Bethel Free Reformed Church Mitchell, Ontario 

June 9, 2012, 1l:00am

Officiating Minister: Pastor Joel Overduin

Organist: Cindy Vander Heide
Pianist:  Brianna Vander Heide

Pallbearers: Michael Vandenbrink
                      David Vandenbrink
                      Ryan Vandenbrink
                      Steven Vandenbrink
                      John Vandenbrink
                      Dave Wielinga

Order of Service 

Scripture readings:
Jeremiah 29: 11-13;
Romans 8: 1,35,38,39;
Philippians 4: 6,7;
Singing: And Can it Be That I Should Gain
Prayer 
Eulogy: Steven Vandenbrink
Singing: Great is Thy Faithfulness
Scripture reading: Romans 8: 14-30 Message from: Romans 8: 18
Singing: Psalter 187
Prayer 
Singing: Psalter 52
Committal

Everyone was welcome to join the family for a light lunch afterward
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The Children's Reflections of their Dear Dad


     On Tuesday, June 5, 2012 at 9:55 p.m. Dad was called home to be with the Lord.

     Dad has meant a lot to many people, most of all, his dear wife of 27 years and his five loved children.

     Dad was a handyman; down to earth yet extremely intelligent. He worked at Highbury Recreation as an RV service technician for all of his married life, faithfully providing for his family to the very last. He was also an elder of Mitchell Free Reformed Church for many years and a friend to many.

     Dad was a godly example of a father with a strong faith and trust in the Lord. He enjoyed a special sense of humour. When we prepared for a project or vacation, we would hear him say things like, "We need a list so we won't be listless". More than once Dad gave his working, often newer car to one of us kids rather than have us struggle with the cost of vehicle repairs ourselves. He was a generous man and always put his family before himself.

     The last summer before he died, Dad worked hard at finishing the second of two foot bridges at the back of the family farm. He put water and electricity into our horse barn and fixed the rickety barn loft. Dad was very loyal to any project he was involved in and he put his whole heart into everything he did.

     As far back as we can remember, Dad always read to us.This past Mother's Day, he and Jess finished one last book they had been reading together. He was always ready to lend out or suggest a good book to anyone he talked to.

     Dad always took time to explain things to his children and, as it says in Deuteronomy 6:6-9, he taught us about the Lord while he "sat in [his] house, and when [he] walked by the way, and when [he] lay in bed and when [he rose]." He toughened up his children and taught us to work, diligently and to the glory of God.

     From family nights to camping, walks in the bush to plowing through snowdrifts, he will always remain in our hearts and on our minds.

     Dad will be sorely missed.

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Reflections from Joanne

On Tues. July 6, 2010  Gary was diagnosed with a brain tumor. It was a shock for all of us. We knew life would be different for all of us from that point on.  Gary was admitted that same night.

I had been reading in the book of  Psalms at that time for my personal devotions (I have the habit of underlining all the texts that mean something special to me). When I opened my bible one morning after the bad news, I read the last text I had underlined.
I will never forget it.
It read, "Be Still and Know that I AM God."
That was a comfort to me. I knew He was in control and He would be there for us.

The past two years seemed so short and yet they felt so long. So much had happened in those two short years. With surgery, chemo and radiation, trips to the doctors, building bridges and getting all the projects done on his wish list (with the help of many others). Having a second surgery, celebrating his 55th birthday at Christmas, saying, "yes" to David Calderwood when he asked for his daughter Christine's hand in marriage and even speaking at David and Leanne's wedding in February. That was almost  two full years that we were able to  enjoy having Gary with us after his diagnosis.

There were many ups and downs but the ups seem to stand out more then the downs. There were so many blessings that we could see throughout our journey with cancer. God was taking care of us. Gary had changed but he was so at peace and so content  He was never frustrated or angry; he was loving and kind to the end.

I am so thankful that I was able to take care of Gary, nursing and loving him at home and  in his own bedroom right to the day the Lord took him to Himself. I am also glad that we were able to sing several hymns at his bedside the Saturday before God took him home. Gary loved hymns.

I thank God today for all the years He has given me to share with Gary and for all the many good and happy memories we shared together as a family and with friends.
I will continue to trust in God's special promises and lean on Him in the days ahead.

Some of many encouraging words sent to us by email:

...The Lord will give strength to His people,
The Lord will bless His people with peace. Psalm 29:11

...What really is impressed in my mind are the devotional times we had together after supper.
And then we would sing. Those are special times which I don’t think I will forget.--friend of the family

...There isn't a day that I still don't think of Gary as he was a rock of knowledge and wisdom ...he always knew the "right" way to handle any problem or issue and guided and listened...

...I'll remember him as a strong Christian father and gentlemen.  Know that his life and legacy will be cherished by you and by many others.

...He simply would listen, offer heartfelt advice, and I could tell he cared.

...It was a great time to work with Gary all these years and to be able to pray together.

...God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1


A special thanks to God for all the encouraging words, messages and prayers received from hundreds of caring people. And to all those involved in Gary's care whether physical, medical, emotional or spiritual. I will never forget the overwhelming support we received from family, friends, church, neighbours, co-workers, doctors, nurses and even strangers!

My sincere thanks for everything,
Joanne


 

 
 
 

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Changes Every Day

Sunday, May 20th, a week ago, out on the deck

Hi Family and Friends,
The last note I posted was at the beginning of May for our anniversary. At that time Gary was still getting up everyday and we were still able to go to his doctor appointments.
He was started on his second round of chemo 3 weeks ago. His blood work was good so they had no reason not to continue the treatment.

Gary has been experiencing more headaches again. It is getting harder and harder to get him out of bed as he is experiencing some type of fainting spells when he sits up. The doctor has prescribed anti-seizure drugs thinking these spells might be mini-seizures. When he can get up he uses a walker for support.

Gary is now spending most of his days in a hospital bed that was delivered this past Tuesday afternoon. We need to help him more and more each day. Homecare nurses are coming out each day to help with morning care. Our son Ryan is home from college and has been a great help around the house as well as with Gary's care.
It seems like a lot has happened over this past week. He doesn't read or talk much any more. He seems very comfortable in his new bed and still has an appetite (which has been decreasing over the last few days).
He said he likes visitors and a lot of people talking about his bed does not seem to bother him.

The book Gary has been reading the most (May 13)
Not long ago we asked Gary what texts meant a lot to him. He quoted the following:
Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for wholeness and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."
Romans 8: 38, "For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."

                                                          Thanks from all of us!


We are receiving visitors everyday and lots of prepared meals. We are so grateful as a family for the tremendous support we are getting from family, friends, church, and neighbours.
I know many, many people all over the place are praying for us and we can feel the support of your prayers. 
Most of all I want to thank God for all the provisions and care He is providing. He is also keeping us strong and holding us up as we face new challenges each day. 
We continue to covet your prayers.
Love Joanne and the rest of the family.

Psalm 29:11 “The Lord will give strength to His people, The Lord will bless His people with peace.
                                                  

Thursday, May 3, 2012

27th Wedding Anniversary Today


Enjoying the beautiful weather sitting on our back deck
It is hard to believe that when we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary 2 years ago Gary was well and healthy as far as we knew.  A lot of things have changed since then but God has been gracious.
We are very thankful that we could celebrate our 27th wedding anniversary together today however in a very different way. 

Breakfast in bed has become a daily routine.



     Gary has been very tired and weak for the last five months and things have not changed. Getting up each morning is the most difficult. Most of his days are spent sleeping in bed or on the couch. He has a lot of books on the go but is mostly reading magazine articles. Gary is not going out much except to schedule appointments with doctors.

     At this time we have no idea what the new chemo is doing for him but God does and He knows what is best. God is providing for all of our needs and I know He will continue to do so.

    Thanks to all for your love and prayers, cards, calls, emails. visits, dinners and offers to help in many ways. Please continue to pray for us as we need a special measure of patience and strength for each new day.

Joanne for us all

The family cats have become very attached to Gary (maybe its because he likes to share some of his meals with them)
Gary often tells me how good I'm taking care of him. He especially enjoys his meals served on this special tray :)



 Family update : A before picture of the new pup (beginning of Feb)
Sadie Today--puppies don't stay small for very long!

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Disappointing News


Dear Family and Friends,

It’s been three months since the last MRI. Gary has been taking chemo pills for all that time. We were disappointed to hear from the doctor on March 12th that the MRI taken on  March 8th shows that the  tumor is growing back. The chemo he has been on has not been able to shrink the tumor or hold it back and there continues to be some swelling.
Gary will be starting on  a different chemotherapy drug starting on March 26th .  The doctor felt his body needed time to rest before he started on the new therapy. The new drug is to be taken one day every 6 weeks. Apparently this drug  is harder on the blood so Gary will need his blood tested several times during this 6 wk period.
Gary  remains quite weak and tired. His headaches have been minimal. We now are concerned with high blood sugars.
Gary seems upbeat, taking things in stride. We know God will not leave our side. So whatever the future holds for us, we know we are not facing it alone.
Knowing that all of you and many more are praying for us daily also lifts our spirits.
God doesn't change. Not His Word, promises, plans, love, forgiveness or salvation. We will trust in Him. 

We continue to be grateful for your many prayers.

Joanne and Gary


Our First Wedding Feb.18, 2012


MR. AND MRS. DAVID VANDENBRINK!!


Just enough snow fell fresh the morning of the wedding to make everything WHITE and COLD!


We had a wonderful day celebrating David and Leanne's wedding.

Mom's Speech


David came into the world weighing  9.1,
I couldn’t  believe that he was our son,
5 and 6 pounders was all we had had.
We were not expecting such a big lad.

It  took 3 days before he had a name.
Picking his name had become a hard game.
Ryan-- or David-- which would it be?
Well, Dad won out, David Henry it would be.

David was always a determined boy.
Sensible, and kind,  giving us much joy.
He was always ready and eager to help.
Had the right tools ready before anyone yelled.

Got his first job when he was eleven.
Joined the army when he was ten plus seven.
Persuaded his parents to give him permission.
Two years paraded and learned army submission.

At seventeen he also bought his first car.
Add in his pizza job money-- and  he could go far.
Worked in a factory,-- worked with cows,
He is now an electrician as he takes his vows.

David always seemed to know what he wanted 
and didn’t stop trying until he got it.
So once he saw Leanne as a life-time prospect;
He asked for her hand and in no time got it.

Both love the Lord with all their heart.
In marriage there’s no better start.
Reading God’s word and obeying Him.
There’s no doubt you will always win.

We officially welcome you, Leanne,
To this Dutch, Vandenbrink family clan.
Like a daughter and sister from the start,
God blessed us with a talented, sweet  girl--with a big heart. 

Just know you’re both real special.
And blessed to have found each other.
May you live a long and healthy life.
That’s filled with love forever.

David and Leanne,
We love you!


A Sensible Story

We always said that David was a sensible boy so here’s the story.


When David was 2 1/2 or 3 years old he often watched his siblings, Michael and Christine, slide down the upstairs banister.  One day I found him at the top of the stairs–contemplating, with his little leg trying to reach over the banister. He was thinking hard.  Then I heard him mumble under his breathe, “Break my neck!” and he was sensible enough not to go down.


As an electrician, David works in high-rise apartment buildings and told Joanne the other day that sometimes he has to climb 25 flights of stairs to get to his work site.

I want you to know David that your mom and I pray for your safety everyday,

so...DON’T BREAK YOUR NECK!

Gary's Wedding Speech

At a time like this it is easy to find numerous poems and sayings from the internet, some of which are actually quite worthwhile. But it is in the word of God that we have the promise that His Word is a lamp unto our feet, and a light unto our path, so it is prudent to use it. It would be nice to have the confidence that the patriarchs and the apostles had that whatever blessings they conveyed would come to pass. But since I am not a patriarch or an apostle, the best I can do is refer to scripture that has promises so to speak "built in" although they are conditional promises.

Like for instance Psalm 128:1 " Blessed is every one who fears the LORD, Who walks in His ways.
2  When you eat the labor of your hands, You shall be happy, and it shall be well with you.
3  Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, Your children like olive plants All around your table.
4  Behold, thus shall the man be blessed Who fears the LORD.
5  The LORD bless you out of Zion, And may you see the good of Jerusalem All the days of your life.
6  Yes, may you see your children’s children. Peace be upon Israel!"

David and Leanne,
When our kids were little I often thought of buying one of those really sturdy wagons with rubber wheels to pull you in (but for some reason we never did). Possibly the Dutch thing again?  Now I am looking forward to pulling grandchildren down the lane-way in a wagon like that and taking walks in the woods, the Lord willing.

It is our prayer and wish that God will continue to bless you in the field of your work and family but mostly that the Holy Spirit will guide you in your married life.

We love you,
Dad



Sunday, February 5, 2012

More Good News

 Lots more things happening at our home...

Hi Family and friends,
Just want to let everyone know that Christine and David Calderwood are now engaged.
Not sure of the date yet, possibly this summer sometime.
We are very happy and excited for them.

Joanne and Gary
 
Another new member of the family :)  
The deal was when Christine got engaged, Jess would get a puppy. Christine will be taking her own dog, Dixie, with her to Goderich. 
Jessica wasted no time in finding one!!


Jessica and Sadie
More parties..... Pennings  Bridal shower held at Diane Postma's home for Leanne
Oma presenting another grandchild-to-be with her painting on a tray

Sunday, January 15, 2012

A Quiet Recovery

Happy 55th Birthday  Gary
Dear Family and Friends,

Gary is having a quiet recovery. He had his staples removed Dec.9th and has healed well. He has been taking it easy, getting up late and resting a lot. The only symptoms are a consistent weakness in his legs and low energy.

On Friday Dec.16th Gary had an appointment with his oncologist. He started a new chemotherapy routine that night. He is taking the same drug he took last year but instead of taking high doses for 5 days and resting for 3 weeks he is now taking one quarter of the dose everyday for as long as is necessary to stop the regrowth of the tumor or keep it stable. Hopefully he will tolerate the chemo as well as last year.


Gary has been spending some time each week working on projects in the barn and the garage with Rick Fintelman his brother-in-law. However, his level of energy is not like it was last time after his surgery. With the help of Rick, his brother Steve and his sons they cut up enough firewood for another year. Don't worry, Gary is taking it easy, doing only as much as his energy allows, sleeping in and resting as needed.


We thank God that He brought Gary safely through the surgery and pray He will bless the means of the chemotherapy and grant him another good year ahead of us.

We like to thank you all for your continued prayers, calls, emails, and words and acts of love and care.
Joanne and family


The next MRI is booked for March 8, 2012 until then he will see his oncologist every 4 weeks and continue on daily chemotherapy.

On Christmas Eve / Gary's Birthday we enjoyed time with our immediate family.
On Christmas Day we had a delicious turkey dinner at my brother Ron and Marilyn Pennings' home.
On Dec.29th we had a house full of family and friends to celebrate his 55th birthday.

Michael and Ryan entertained us on Christmas Eve

Relaxing, feet up and reading
We love spending time together as a family